For years, I used to think of “introversion” in the more conventional, dictionary sense – equating it with being shy. For this exact reason, I did not identify as an “introvert” for the longest time. I am not shy and do not have much social anxiety. But I always felt something “off” when I was in groups. Like, I am not my best self in groups. But I couldn’t really point to what it was that made me so icky with people. I liked people. Well, at least most of them. But after a point, I just couldn’t stand anyone and it started to show.
I am sure a lot of people think of me as aloof and uncaring person for this exact reason. This went on for quite some time. Until one day, I came across this definition of introversion, that came from a B-school professor and goes like this.. ( I am not able to find the exact source now) :
Introverts tend to recharge by spending time alone. They lose energy from being around people for long periods of time, particularly large crowds.
This, literally, was a light bulb moment for me. Yes. Yes. This is what I am.
It was the key I was looking for. It made me understand that people were not the problem, I was not the problem. It’s all about how much energy I had, to spend on them. By controlling the time for my social interactions, which is not always so easy, and balancing it with some “time alone”, I could find the energy I need for managing relationships with people.
Now, I know all this is nothing more than pop-psychology but it did resonate with me. It has actually made my social interaction much more pleasant. So I am really glad I learnt about this.
Here’s a concise article on everything around introversion, for those interested to read more.
You can check out more comics by me on this topic here.